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What we resist, persists
“The instant I fully accept one of life’s waves, I shift away from worry and open up to creativity and possibility.” ~Andrea Gibson A client was telling me about a tough situation they were facing. Their boss had decided, with no input from my client, to simply shift...
How to start anew, even when it’s old
We’re just back from our month-long sabbatical. We know how lucky we are to be able to take a month to practice what we “preach” about rest and reflection. We’ve been doing this since my 22-year-old child was heading into kindergarten…so for a while now. Back then we...
Mistakes welcome!
“The only man who never makes a mistake is the man who never does anything.” ~Theodore Roosevelt Why is it that we (that I) get so hung up on the mistakes we make? Or even sometimes on the mistakes that others make around us. What is this notion that somehow resides...
Please, thank you, and I’m sorry – words for kindergarten and leadership
As parents we can be very focused on teaching our children manners and appropriate behaviors – choosing the right words, using our "inside" voices, sharing, being kind to others. But somewhere along the way we forget that those very behaviors we are instilling in our...
Don’t apologize for using the “F” word at work
"Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth." ~Benjamin Disraeli I refer to Feelings as "the F word" in business. I've witnessed over the years that many people - many people - still seem to think that we should somehow leave our...
The biggest barrier to your team’s development? You
Years ago I had a peer (I'll call her Nancy) who complained constantly about her team. We were both managers of large sales teams, worked for the same overly demanding boss, and had to manage in a period of never-ending restructuring and downsizing. I'll admit, it...
Do you really need advice?
“Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.” ~Erica Jong The other day I noticed a pattern during a recent coaching session. It was pretty obvious and hard to miss. My client was sharing a number of situations she was facing and...
Running is like leading – 5 key steps towards winning the race
I went for a run this morning. It was tough. I'm not sure why. I haven't been running all that often – I never actually run all that often – but I have been running. But today my three miles were challenging. As I kept my legs moving, I reflected back to when I first...
Be brave. Show up.
"The willingness to show up changes us. It makes us a little braver each time." ~Brené Brown Sometimes leading is scary. Sometimes life is scary. Sometimes something comes our way, and we don't know how to handle it. We don't know how to have the tough conversation...
The real ways to capitalize on failure
We have written about the benefits of not being afraid to fail – taking risks, being bold, and not limiting yourself. And when you do fail, being able to make the most of a failure through learning, growing, and pushing yourself further. Lewis Schiff, author of the...
Stepping out of FOMO to focus on what matters
“My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me.” ~Imam Al-Shafi’i We seem to be driven by FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). We spend way too much time scrolling social media for what our “friends”...
Being perpetually late to meetings is really annoying to your colleagues
When I have a coaching client who is often late to our sessions or who is constantly rescheduling, I ask questions, one of which is “Are you also often late to meetings with your colleagues?” Almost always, the answer is “Yes.” That makes sense to me, because...
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