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This little light of mine
“If a man carries his own lantern, he need not fear darkness.” ~Hasidic saying My daughter used to get upset by very many things – big and little, scary and maybe less so. She used to go off a cliff it seemed, into endless darkness of negative thoughts and scary...
Why self-compassion is the essential Thoughtful Leadership practice
I know that we often promote Thoughtful Leadership skills and practices that others may not necessarily see as essential to leadership – like self-compassion. I’m here to argue that not only is self-compassion an essential Thoughtful Leadership practice, it is the...
Hearing and understanding are two different things
“I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize, that what you heard, isn’t what I meant.” ~Unknown This is one of my favorite quotes, even though I don’t know where it’s from. It captures the futility of communication better...
How to stop that annoying thing you do
Apparently I’ve developed a new annoying habit, which my husband pointed out to me the other day. I say the word “totally” a lot in conversation. As he listened to my phone calls on a long car ride recently, I noticed him holding up five fingers and then flashing five...
Bite size, manageable pieces
“The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.” ~Mark Twain Big Hairy Audacious Goals. I often coach and coax my clients...
After the pandemic, what choices will you have made?
There’s no going back to “normal” after the last 12 months. What does normal even mean at this point? (And, as the most recent shootings remind us, there are some things we never want to be normal.) Our lives, realities, and perspectives have been changed in profound...
The benefits of bringing love to the workplace
“Wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.” ~Khalil Gibran I’ve recently been explaining myself this way, “I am the Executive Coach who talks about love in Fortune 50 companies and with C-suite executives.” Now I know I’m not the only...
Why stepping away may be your best leadership move yet
Of the many perks that progressive companies offer these days, one of my favorites is a sabbatical. Hundreds of organizations offer paid and unpaid leaves for employees who want to pursue a passion, focus on their health, spend time with family, renew from job stress,...
If you can’t own your strengths, then who will?
“You alone are enough…you have nothing to prove to anybody.” ~Maya Angelou I was with a client the other day, observing her during an internal meeting with her boss. It’s called “shadow coaching.” My assignment was to observe my client – what she said, how she said...
How to get around the lies that block your leadership – and life
The other day I was asked what my “sweet spot” was in coaching. What I’m really known for and what I really love to do. (Luckily, I think they’re the same thing.) As more and more people know, I had a childhood that I had to, in many ways, survive. I no longer keep my...
Personal boundaries – one of the hardest, and most essential, Thoughtful Leadership skills
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” ~Brené Brown I will admit it here. I am still learning about boundaries. Where I start and stop. Where others start and stop. How to tell them apart. How...
Know when to quit
“You've got to know when to hold 'em Know when to fold 'em Know when to walk away And know when to run.” I don’t think Kenny Rogers was talking about leadership when he wrote The Gambler, but there’s a lot we can learn from his gambling approach. A large part of...
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