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The secret to ending an argument
“It takes two to quarrel, but only one to end it.” ~Spanish Proverb The other day I was talking with a client and she could not stop talking about her colleague with whom she was “in battle.” Apparently they had been working together on a project and they had...
Change may be good, but is your organization ready for it?
One topic that seems to be universal among my coaching clients is change – restructuring, system rollouts, new initiatives, leadership shifts, and more. Generally, the first question that is asked is “How do we implement this?” That is the wrong question and one that...
When the same issue keeps returning, change something
"If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude." ~Maya Angelou Sometimes my coaching clients come to their sessions to vent. They often move past the venting, eventually, but sometimes the entire session seems to be about them...
Why pausing is such an important leadership skill, and how to do it
As an Executive Coach, I get to work with many powerful, successful leaders, and many of them have a habit that's getting in their way. They're reacting too quickly, and not reacting Thoughtfully. Their colleagues will say: "I ask him a question, and his immediate...
True heroes take it slow
"We do not have to become heroes overnight." ~Eleanor Roosevelt Somehow it seems like many, if not all, of my clients, think they need to be on some sort of fast track. They identify a problem or challenge. Someone points out to them a development area. They see a gap...
Three questions to challenge your assumptions about your co-worker
Recently, I presented a program on the Introverted Leader. When I mentioned this to a friend, she said, “Oh wow. A roomful of introverts? That’s going to be a long morning with no one talking!” Of course, that was not the case. In fact, having more than 50 mostly...
From cancer recovery to goldfinch joy – a journey toward a brighter inner window
“Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world.” ~George Bernard Shaw Have you noticed the difference in yourself depending on how your day is going? Or the difference in your day, depending on how you are doing? When...
How to avoid misunderstandings at work – and get on the same page
On a recent coaching call, my client talked about one of his direct reports needing to be more strategic. He was frustrated and felt that this person just didn’t have what it takes to be successful in their role long term. I asked him how he defined “strategic” and...
Our differences drive us crazy (and make us stronger)
“We must recognize that difference is a reason for celebration and growth, rather than a reason for destruction.” ~Audre Lorde Whenever I teach DiSC styles, I tell the story of how, when I was in Columbia Business School, and there was conflict within my study group,...
Five things NOT to do in a conflict at work
It’s inevitable. You’re going to have conflicts at work. Most of the time they are minor issues – differences of opinion, low stakes disagreements, and misunderstandings. But there are times when the conflicts are significant. It may be that there is a lot at stake....
How to train your inner champion
“To be a champ you have to believe in yourself when nobody else will.” ~Sugar Ray Robinson I was listening to a podcast the other day, and the guest was saying that the only way to increase confidence was to do something over and over and over again, until you know...
This is one of the most important changes you can make to enhance your leadership and your life
We are fortunate to be able to support some amazing clients. Our clients are amazing because of who they are and also often because of the work they do. I will always, perhaps especially around this time of year, feel lucky and privileged to be considered an ally, a...
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