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Why you’re afraid to go through that forbidden door
“If there is one door in the castle you have been told not to go through, you must.” ~Anne Lamott I once told someone I was a rule-follower. Her response? “No one, upon meeting you, would ever take you to be a rule follower.” I get that the first impression I offer is...
Thoughtful leadership in action
By now, if you are a regular subscriber to our blog, you have read a lot about our philosophy of Thoughtful Leadership™ – stepping away from the chaos and frenzy of the day-to-day to lead with intention, purposeful action, and self-reflection. We not only like to...
There’s glory in the hard things we face
“The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.” ~Molière I’ve told a few people recently that I’m looking forward to the time I’m asked, “What’s new?” and I reply, “Not much.” I’ve told a few people I’m ready for easy. I’ve told a few people that I’m done...
Why “selfish” might be the healthiest thing you become
Are you someone who goes and goes and goes at work until you hit a wall? Or are you someone who tends to be the person everyone comes to when they have an issue or need help? Or maybe you’re someone who puts off the things that matter to you because you have so many...
The secret to ending an argument
“It takes two to quarrel, but only one to end it.” ~Spanish Proverb The other day I was talking with a client and she could not stop talking about her colleague with whom she was “in battle.” Apparently they had been working together on a project and they had...
Change may be good, but is your organization ready for it?
One topic that seems to be universal among my coaching clients is change – restructuring, system rollouts, new initiatives, leadership shifts, and more. Generally, the first question that is asked is “How do we implement this?” That is the wrong question and one that...
When the same issue keeps returning, change something
"If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude." ~Maya Angelou Sometimes my coaching clients come to their sessions to vent. They often move past the venting, eventually, but sometimes the entire session seems to be about them...
Why pausing is such an important leadership skill, and how to do it
As an Executive Coach, I get to work with many powerful, successful leaders, and many of them have a habit that's getting in their way. They're reacting too quickly, and not reacting Thoughtfully. Their colleagues will say: "I ask him a question, and his immediate...
True heroes take it slow
"We do not have to become heroes overnight." ~Eleanor Roosevelt Somehow it seems like many, if not all, of my clients, think they need to be on some sort of fast track. They identify a problem or challenge. Someone points out to them a development area. They see a gap...
Three questions to challenge your assumptions about your co-worker
Recently, I presented a program on the Introverted Leader. When I mentioned this to a friend, she said, “Oh wow. A roomful of introverts? That’s going to be a long morning with no one talking!” Of course, that was not the case. In fact, having more than 50 mostly...
From cancer recovery to goldfinch joy – a journey toward a brighter inner window
“Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world.” ~George Bernard Shaw Have you noticed the difference in yourself depending on how your day is going? Or the difference in your day, depending on how you are doing? When...
How to avoid misunderstandings at work – and get on the same page
On a recent coaching call, my client talked about one of his direct reports needing to be more strategic. He was frustrated and felt that this person just didn’t have what it takes to be successful in their role long term. I asked him how he defined “strategic” and...
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