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Getting on the same page when words and meanings differ
In my town there is a drawbridge that is often under repair. When it is being worked on and the spans are in the upright position, is the bridge open or is it closed? Some people will say it’s open because they see the spans up and open for boats to go through. Others...
One simple act can magnify your happiness
“Happiness is loving what you have and letting go of what you don’t have.” ~Anonymous My clients often come to their coaching session wanting to work through a tough situation with a colleague (or loved one). They explain what’s gone wrong or how misheard they feel,...
Five questions to ask before accepting that meeting request
I have been out of the regular daily office scene for over a decade now, and there are a few new things in today’s workplaces that I would probably have a hard time with – one of them is open office space. As someone who values my quiet time to think through an issue,...
Why taking a long shot is a Thoughtful leadership practice
“Life is a tragedy when seen in close-up, but a comedy in long-shot.” ~Charlie Chaplin Many lives ago I worked in entertainment marketing. It was the time of the “dramedy” – the ironic but serious storyline for television series. (Yes, back when there were three...
Now is hard. Here’s a (beginning) list of ways to manage through.
Now is hard. I keep reminding people of that – clients, family, friends, and strangers. Now is very, very hard. We’ve been in some form of lockdown for months. We’re in the midst of more uncertainty and upheaval than probably any, or at least many, of us have ever...
Are you getting the most out of your life?
“One way to get the most out of life is to look upon it as an adventure.” ~William Feather If I’ve learned one thing in the last year, it’s that I’m really not in charge and there is so much out of my control. That said, the other thing I’ve learned is that it’s...
Why tough conversations are so tough to have – and what to do about it
I think it’s something we all have in common. There are simply some conversations we don’t want to or don’t know how to have, and so we either avoid the conversations (or the person/people we should be having the conversations with), plunge into the conversations...
Personal boundaries – one of the hardest, and most essential, Thoughtful Leadership skills
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” ~Brené Brown I will admit it here. I am still learning about boundaries. Where I start and stop. Where others start and stop. How to tell them apart. How...
How to get around the lies that block your leadership – and life
The other day I was asked what my “sweet spot” was in coaching. What I’m really known for and what I really love to do. (Luckily, I think they’re the same thing.) As more and more people know, I had a childhood that I had to, in many ways, survive. I no longer keep my...
How to start moving forward when you’re not sure where you should be going
“As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.” ~Rumi The other day I was speaking with a client. She was stuck at a proverbial crossroads on a project, and she couldn’t figure out what was the best way to move forward. She wanted – so wanted – a plan. A map that...
The do’s and don’ts of inclusive leadership
This past year has been the year of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion for many organizations. As the country grappled with issues of inequity and systemic racism, many organizations looked within at their own exclusionary and inequitable practices and policies. They...
Three simple practices for a better tomorrow
"None of us can change our yesterdays, but all of us can change our tomorrows." ~Colin Powell I was talking with a new coaching client the other day. He was telling me a bit more about his childhood and some of the painful things that happened to him. I have learned –...
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