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Stop the voices in your head
I’ve come to the conclusion that we all have them. The voices in our head. For some of us, they’re louder than for others – and, for most of us, we need to stop them. Well, at least stop most of them. Perhaps some of the voices are helpful. But much of what we tell...
Do your relationships need a little superglue?
“An apology is the superglue of life. It can fix just about anything.” ~Lynn Johnston The other day a client was telling me about a relationship with her colleague that was, in her words, broken beyond repair. The two of them had been close, or at least close enough....
Getting on the same page when words and meanings differ
In my town there is a drawbridge that is often under repair. When it is being worked on and the spans are in the upright position, is the bridge open or is it closed? Some people will say it’s open because they see the spans up and open for boats to go through. Others...
You are more courageous than you think
"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear." ~Mark Twain I was at a community meeting the other night, and the facilitators took us through an exercise to help us get to know each other better. They asked us to grab a partner and to answer...
Rules for being a leader people like
One of my first bosses told me that to be successful it’s much more important that people fear you than like you. He cautioned that my inclination to be friendly and “too nice” to the people who worked for me in my new managerial role would be a derailer in my climb...
Do the hustle
“Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.” ~Abraham Lincoln Many times I’ve written of taking your time, sitting things out, pausing to reflect, not rushing in haste…all of these are important. There are also times to be the one...
Teflon and Velcro – and what they mean for Thoughtful Leadership
We have written about this before, but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth repeating. And repeating again. Because I find myself restating it over and over to clients (and over and over to myself as well). Our brains have evolved to be like Teflon for the good things and...
Why it’s important to be teachable
“I am always ready to learn, although I do not always like being taught.” ~Winston Churchill There is so much for me to learn. I know that. But it would be much easier if I didn’t mind being taught… It’s not exactly that I mind being taught. It’s that there still is a...
Can you really trust your boss?
It’s a question my clients struggle with often. Can they trust their boss? I mean, really trust their boss. Successful relationships evolve and revolve around trust. But trusting your boss – fully and completely trusting your boss – can often seem risky. In fact,...
How to know when you are really listening
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” ~Stephen Covey No matter what topic we’re brought in to teach when we’re with a client, we nearly always end up talking about communication. It could be authentic...
How intentionality makes your life and leadership better
Many of you are familiar with our Thoughtful Leadership philosophy – being present, being intentional, and being authentic will lead to the results that you want. Recently I have had several coaching conversations about what it means to be intentional. For example,...
Why there’s no finish line for Thoughtful leaders
“When you're finished changing, you're finished.” ~Benjamin Franklin Someone said this to me just this morning. I was working through a personal challenge – working it through in my mind and also out loud with them on the phone – and they reminded me that there isn’t...
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