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I really, really hate my job
Unfortunately it happens to nearly all of us, if not all of us, at some point. We hate our job. Really, really hate our job. That’s not a good feeling, because we spend so much time at our jobs. And have so much of ourselves invested in our jobs. Yet even as leaders,...
Are you causing your own shadow?
“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson I’m beginning to realize how many of my bad moods are self-inflicted. How many of my moments of anger, frustration, or despair are actually in my control (although...
Vulnerability is not a dirty word, it’s a leadership skill
Somehow, I think we’ve all created – and perpetuated – the myth that leaders need to be strong and infallible. That there can be no cracks in your armor or skeletons in your closet. That it’s best to look like you always have it together and aren’t ever questioning or...
Make every mistake once
"Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time." ~George Bernard Shaw Years ago I was at an internal meeting at Verizon. A leader stood up and said one of the best things I’ve ever heard. “We make every mistake once.”...
Remember what worked for you
There are always new and better ways to do things – to be more effective at work, to manage your time better, to get more out of life, and to feel more fulfilled. But often, there are things that have worked for us in the past that we forget about. Case in point: in...
The gift hidden within
“Why is this happening for me?” ~Anonymous “Why is this happening to me?” we often ask when the unwanted happens. We lose a job, our car keys, our directions, whatever – and we ask, “Why me? Why does this always happen to me?” Recently a client was bemoaning his...
Taming your inner know-it-all
Knowledge is an important competency. Look on any performance evaluation form, and knowledge will certainly be there in some way. What you know matters. After all, “knowledge is power,” as they say. With our desire to gain knowledge and demonstrate that knowledge, we...
Why habits matter
"Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going." ~Jim Ryun Everything, or at least most things, seems difficult before you start them. You want a huge change in your life, your work, your relationships, your health – but it seems so far away, so...
Build a better meeting
Ever sit in a meeting and wonder to yourself, “Why are we talking about this?” “When is he going to shut up so I can get back to my real work?” or “Is this really the best use of my time?” Often the workday is filled with back-to-back meetings. You go from conference...
Does saying it make it so?
“Begin to listen to what you say. Say only what you want to become true for you.” ~Louise Hay The other day I was talking with a client, and my client was complaining about someone with whom he worked. “He’s such an idiot,” my client shared, over and over. “He just...
Four actions for easing the after-vacation blues
Back to school events, football, and the first leaves on the lawn remind me that summer is over and it’s back to reality. If you’re like me and want to hold on to a bit of that summer feeling, take a look at this blog post that I am re-sharing for tips on moving past...
The most important thing you can do to be more successful
"Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it." ~Maya Angelou The more clients I work with and the more people I know, the more I believe we are suffering from an epidemic of not liking ourselves. I have clients who are uncomfortable with...
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