How not to get what you expect

How not to get what you expect

“Look for strength in people, not weakness; for good, not evil. Most of us find what we search for.” ~Wilbur J. Chapman I’ve heard it said many times, “You get what you look for.” I’ve offered this to clients (and friends and family). I’ve noticed it in my own life....
Got enlightenment?

Got enlightenment?

“Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is enlightenment.” ~Lao Tzu My daughter yelled at me the other day. “You never told me that ‘awareness is the first step’ is from AA!” she said. “I say that all the time, because you’ve said it to me, but you never told me...
The value of a closed mouth

The value of a closed mouth

“Never miss a good chance to shut up.” ~Will Rogers The other day I walked away from a conversation with a refrain echoing in my head. It used to be more common for me, but I’ve been working on it – hard. Unfortunately yesterday I slipped into old behavior, and I was...
Bring little pleasures into your life

Bring little pleasures into your life

“When you die, God and the angels will hold you accountable for all the pleasures in life that you denied yourself.” ~Anonymous I share this quote with my clients (and friends and family) – even those who don’t believe in God or angels – because this is the type of...
Is that really you in the mirror?

Is that really you in the mirror?

I’ve learned over the years that we don’t always see ourselves very accurately. We think we’re being fair, and yet we’re being biased. We think we’re being kind, and we have a tone to our voice. We think we’re being direct, and no...