Find the dazzle

Find the dazzle

“You must habit yourself to the dazzle of the light and of every moment of your life.” ~Walt Whitman This quote makes me pause. Maybe because Walt Whitman is intense – and I have to really stop and ponder all that he conveys in these few words. Maybe because it’s a...
Day-to-day happiness

Day-to-day happiness

“The greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances.” ~Martha Washington Have you ever noticed that two people can go through nearly identical situations and have entirely different reactions? Some people seem to be...
Caution: Don’t ask if you won’t act

Caution: Don’t ask if you won’t act

The phrase, “Feedback is a gift,” is so true. Without it, many of us would walk around completely clueless about what our true strengths are, what we suck at, and what impact our behaviors are having on other people. And without feedback, we may not be able to make...
Our brains are built for bias and how to overcome it

Our brains are built for bias and how to overcome it

A few years ago, I was observing a meeting that one of my clients was having with his direct report. I listened to their conversation, heard the direct report share a seemingly simple story of the way he had handled an issue, and watched my client react with anger…to...
How not to get what you expect

How not to get what you expect

“Look for strength in people, not weakness; for good, not evil. Most of us find what we search for.” ~Wilbur J. Chapman I’ve heard it said many times, “You get what you look for.” I’ve offered this to clients (and friends and family). I’ve noticed it in my own life....