“Sometimes people let the same problem make them miserable for years when they could just say ‘so what.’ That’s one of my favorite things to say.”~Andy Warhol
I’ve seen it. I’ve done it.
Letting the same problem make me miserable year after year. Maybe “working at it.” Maybe complaining about it. Certainly letting it ruin at least my day.
Year after year after year.
When all along I could just say “so what.” What a concept. All along I could take back the power I’ve given to this problem to ruin my day, or my job, or, seemingly, my life. I could take it back and choose to look at it differently, or not look at it at all.
The co-worker who drives me crazy? So what. How important is he? The boss who picks at me? So what? Sure, she makes work, and life, difficult, but I have a choice how much I let her ruin for me. The people in my family (I won’t name them) who keep doing the things they’ve always been doing? The things that irritate me, or hurt me? Honestly, so what? I know these people are all like this – hey, at least I know what to expect.
But I have a choice about how miserable I’ll let them make me.
Maybe it’s not a person who is making me miserable. Maybe it’s my commute. Or my job. Or something about my health. There comes a point where, after I’ve done the things I can to make my situation or problem better – as better as I can – it just may be time to say “so what.” So what, and move on to something else that doesn’t bother me.
Maybe even something – or someone – that lights me up or brings me joy.
Where do you need to say “so what?” Where will you?
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