I really, really hate my job

I really, really hate my job

Unfortunately it happens to nearly all of us, if not all of us, at some point. We hate our job. Really, really hate our job.

That’s not a good feeling, because we spend so much time at our jobs. And have so much of ourselves invested in our jobs. Yet even as leaders, we may find that there are times when we hate our job.

I remember the last job I hated. Each day, on my commute, the train would pass a certain stop and I’d feel myself sink into misery. I hated where I was going and I hated how I felt there. I even hated what I did there.

There is good news, though, about that horrible feeling. I know that my hatred forced me to get out – and to start this business in fact. I couldn’t let myself be miserable any longer, so I took my plunge.

In talking through the plight of job-hatred with others, I’ve found that there are often positives to be found in this huge negative. We start something new. We find a way to appreciate the little things – at home and at work – which gives us a better outlook overall. We get ourselves involved in projects at work that we might otherwise have avoided, or endeavors outside of work that enrich our lives.

In fact, the best way to survive that hatred is to find the energy to gain something positive. This U.S. News blog post by Miriam Salpeter offers a number of suggestions, big and small, on surviving – and even thriving – through job-hatred. She suggests figuring out common themes around the things that you hate about your job, so that you can address them (or your own attitude), and finding ways to let go of tasks you particularly hate (if possible) and get involved with projects that excite you.

It really stinks to really, really hate your job. But it’s someplace many of us have been, and someplace many who work for us might be. We need to recognize the signs of job-hatred in ourselves and others, and find the ways to turn that hatred into something that brings success.

What’s helped you when you’ve hated your job?
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Charisse   |   05 December 2013

I think for me, I am always trying to capture opportunities to leverage my experiences towards the career I want to have, even in those instances where I do not like my job or task. For this to be effective, I have a clear cut vision of where I want to be in the future. Hateful jobs for me builds resilience, in that I am not focused on the actual hate (ha) but I am focused on the benefits by being there (i.e. paycheck, transferable skills, etc.). I think, as the author also mentioned, it gives me the extra push I need to look for other opportunities where I will be happier, and gives me the push to look in other areas for opportunities that are not as obvious, given my skill set and passion. Finally, I think after I have moved out of those hateful type of jobs, I am more appreciative of the jobs I like! There’s something about going through less than desirable situations that prepares us holistically for where we want to be and gives us a more appreciative perspective of the rewards we gain as a result of our hard work and effort.

Lisa Kohn   |   05 December 2013

Thank you Charisse! I think you’ve captured the truth about the positives of having a job we hate. Thanks for your thoughts.