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The Thoughtful Leaders™ BlogYou can laugh more
I can be very intense. Ask anyone who knows me. I can get caught in the seriousness of a situation, the meaning of a moment, the dilemma of a debate. I can work very hard to find value in each encounter and search for the hidden significance under every comment. And it can bog me down. Related Posts:Leave a ReplyFollow your bliss
Recently a client was discussing her upcoming choice between two new jobs. The discussion seemed like a cost-benefit analysis – all head and very little heart. “I should do this,” she said. “This makes the most sense. I really love that idea, but it’s probably not smart.” Now while the more “sensible” option may be the right one for her to pursue, it struck me how quickly we follow what seems “right” rather than what seems wonderful. Related Posts:Leave a ReplyTen questions to ask yourself as 2013 begins in order to have a more Thoughtful, successful year
Related Posts:Leave a ReplyHow your shoulds are hurting you
Seriously, if you’re like me you have a litany of shoulds running through your brain. “I should work later to get this project done.” “I should get home earlier and get things cleaned up there.” “I should exercise more.” “I should volunteer at my kid’s school.” “I should network more.” “I should learn another language.” Your shoulds might be different from mine, but they’re there. Related Posts:One Response to “How your shoulds are hurting you”Leave a ReplyWhere can you have more fun?
Having fun is highly underrated. We forget to have fun at work. We neglect to have fun in our daily lives. We grow out of having fun as we age. Yet fun can be an extremely effective and motivating leadership skill. Related Posts:Leave a ReplyGet out of workplace hell
What is it about hell that makes us stop and stay there? We get stuck in bemoaning how awful it is, or how much we’re stuck, or how unfair life is. Wouldn’t it be easier, and most likely quicker, if we just kept going to get out? Related Posts:Leave a ReplyHow to fail
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Leave a ReplyShow up for what is
The other day I was noticing a pattern in my coaching sessions – somehow every client was talking about how hard they were trying and how difficult things were becoming for them. All I seemed to hear was, “I’m not getting anywhere with this project.” “Everyone is fighting me on this.” “I just don’t have enough time.” Related Posts:Leave a Reply5 Thoughtful Leadership tips to stopping overwhelm
Let the little things slide – Right now, at my house, the bed is unmade, the laundry is unfolded, and there are dishes in the sink. Right now, in my office, there’s a pile of magazines that need to be looked through, a pile of papers that need to be filed, and a pile of expenses that need to be entered. Right now, on my to-do list, are many documents to be edited and a full email inbox to go through…and none of that really matters. These are the little things that I normally do to keep my life calmer and more clutter-free, but there simply isn’t time right now and I have to let them slide. And forgive myself for not keeping up with my own standards. Related Posts:4 Responses to “5 Thoughtful Leadership tips to stopping overwhelm”
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