I hear it from my children. I hear it from my clients. I hear it from my family members and friends. I hear it from myself. “I can’t do that.” “It will never work.”
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The Thoughtful Leaders BlogGet out of your own way
“Clear your mind of ‘can’t.’” Samuel Johnson
I hear it from my children. I hear it from my clients. I hear it from my family members and friends. I hear it from myself. “I can’t do that.” “It will never work.” Related Posts:Leave a ReplyAre you looking beyond the resentment?
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” Nelson Mandela
I woke up this morning full of resentment. I try not to go there – my life’s work is around helping other people live without resentment, so it seems like a good idea if I can have little, or no, resentment in my life. But I was full of it. Related Posts:Leave a ReplyJust say noI have a client who is in overwhelm. How do I know? She personally told me that she has thousands and thousands of unread emails…that she will never get to. And everyone around her has confidentially told me that my client simply promises too much, overcommits, and just plain old “works too hard.” In essence, she “overpromises” and “underdelivers” – which is the exact opposite of what we coach our clients to do. We strongly suggest that they “underpromise” and “overdeliver” – thereby giving themselves some breathing space and wowing those around them with on-time (and even early) delivery of stellar results. Related Posts:Leave a ReplyImagine your way to success
“Worry is a misuse of the imagination.” Dan Zadra
I have a great imagination – and only recently have I learned to use it for something worthwhile. When I was a kid, I could, and did, easily imagine the worst things happening. When my mother came home late I knew she was dead. When other kids in school were laughing, I knew it was at me. When I handed in a paper at school, I knew already that I had failed. I was most often wrong. Related Posts:Leave a ReplySelf-promotion is a good thing
“The opportunity to experience yourself differently is always available.” Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche
Have you ever noticed how stuck we get in our own perceptions, and especially our perceptions of ourselves? I hear it all the time – “that’s just the way I am,” people will share. “I always go too fast,” (or slow). “I’m never good at those things.” “I can’t do that.” Related Posts:Leave a ReplyPondering the Fortune Cookie’s Question“Do you see difficulty behind every opportunity, or opportunity behind every difficulty?” Can you believe I found this question in a fortune cookie?!? What a delightfully unexpected and thoughtful question to ponder at the end of a take-out meal! What I especially love about it is the underlying, very actionable message: Sometimes what we need to make progress is a shift in perspective. Related Posts:2 Responses to “Pondering the Fortune Cookie’s Question”Leave a ReplyThe first step towards winning an argument
“There’s more than one way to look at a problem, and they may all be right.” Norman Schwarzkopf
Have you ever been totally certain you knew the right and best answer to a problem? You knew the best way to approach an issue, how to get the greatest outcome…only someone else was also completely certain that they knew the best answer, and it wasn’t close to the solution you came up with. And what if that someone was someone who really mattered to you, whose opinion mattered, who you needed agreement from, needed on your side? And they were steadfastly asserting that their “wrong” answer was the way to go. Related Posts:Leave a ReplyTop 5 lessons from 2010My clients never cease to inspire me – and each year, as the year draws to an end, I reflect on the lessons they have taught me. Here is what I learned in 2010:
Related Posts:Leave a ReplyCobbler’s Children Syndrome in the WorkplaceIn many organizations I have encountered during my consulting career, people have complained about “Cobbler’s Children Syndrome”. Like the proverbial children of the shoemaker who go without shoes, I have consulted to technology companies that have outdated computer systems, marketing firms that don’t market themselves in any way, and consulting firms that fail to put into practice for themselves a single theory or model upon which they have built their businesses. Related Posts:Leave a ReplyForget about managing your time; Manage your energy insteadIn any given week, I get plenty of emails about Time Management – seminars to attend, books to read, articles to click through to, and the hottest new productivity tools to buy. And when I find myself struggling to get through my to-do list or forgetting to do something, I feel guilty about my “poor time management.” No wonder everyone is focused on time management. Seems like there is always more to do, more information to process, more new technology to comprehend, more people to stay in touch with, and more places to be at the same time! Yet, we still have the same 24 hours in a day that we’ve always had. So, what do we do? Sleep less? Not I. Related Posts:Leave a Reply |
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Cathy,
Great perspective and a way to shift the paradigm. It is hard when you are looking up at the difficulties, to flip the script and look for the brighter side. Thank you for sharing this.
Thanks, Dwight! Hopefully, with practice, we can all become better at remembering to shift our perspective on “difficult” things. I think it’s a challenge for all of us — it’s so natural to worry about and resist things that look hard…. But if we can flip the script, as you say (great expression, by the way!), we can lower our stress levels and really enjoy each day, no matter what presents itself. Thanks again for your comment!