“The best way out is always through.”
~Robert Frost
Did you ever reach a point where you just want to give up? Where you don’t feel you have the strength to go on? Where it all just seems like too much?
When I hit that spot where I know I can’t handle it any longer, I hate to admit it, but I find myself looking for the easy way out. The escape-hatch I can stumble upon. The rescue team that saves me.
I simply want out.
But I’ve found over the years, and I’ve noticed with my clients in my coaching practice as well, that the “easy way out” isn’t really an easy way out. Time and time again, I’ve found that the best way out is through, not around.
I may think I don’t have what it takes…but somewhere inside me I usually do, or I find someone who does who can “lend” it to me. I may not think I can handle what life is throwing at me, but somehow I find reserves to keep going…or I lean on others who support me and I keep going that way. I may only want to sit down and give up – stop right in my tracks, throw up my hands and cry “uncle!” And I may even do that.
But somehow, from somewhere, I find the strength – or maybe the madness – to get back up and keep putting one foot in front of the other. And I find my way through.
Because that’s what going through may look like – just getting back up and trying again. Or taking a pause, a breath, and staying with whatever’s going on. Or taking a nap, or a walk around the block, and letting it all flow past you or through you. Somehow finding a way to “know” that you are okay and you will be okay and it is okay…even when it’s not.
And it’s not just me. As a coach, I am witness to ordinary people doing amazing things. My clients face tough, tough challenges, and I watch them ease their way through, push their way through, and work their way through.
Their best way out seems to always be through.
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